New Relationships?

Pic from 'Unconditional Love' Wall photos.

I've been attending a Support group for the last several months.  I have enjoyed the lessons and I have learned a lot.  However, it has bothered me that there is a certain judgmental tone regarding single men of a certain age;   Some of the comments:

''There is a reason why they are still single.'' 

                                    &

''Men are operating out of fear, at this age, because they don't like to be alone - they are looking for a nurse or a purse.''

The implication - men, my age or older, cannot be trusted.  There must be something wrong with them if they are single. 


I don't think its fair to make generalized statements like that.  Sure SOME men are childish and some men are dysfunctional but, that's true for any age.   The whole tone of the discussion makes me a little sad.  Is that because I believe it's just a tiny bit true??


It is hard for one to allow vulerability again after a marriage ends - specifically for women!  But, I do trust God and I can't live my life afraid that all men my age are needy, dysfunctional losers.  


Honestly, what saddens me the most is the realization that couples my age, who are still married, are essentially two people that have grown up together.  They were in their 20's when they got married and they built their adult life together.  They bought their first home together, had their kids together, planned, moved, an navigated their way through early adulthood - together.  There is a certain 'sweetness' to that.  I will never capture that again in a new relationship.  If God does bring me someone it will be combining two 'mature' lives.  I'm not sure how the dynamics of that works but it's certainly lacks that 'charm' of a couple who married young and built their lives together.  


That said, I don't believe I'm meant to be alone for the rest of my life.  My heart, my gut, is telling me there is someone out there waiting and he will present himself when its time.   I will be vigilant and take steps to insure I'm with the right person but, at some point, every relationship takes a leap of faith.  


~ TR